By Julie Hamilton
I was having a sweet chat with one of our moms last week and she was talking about the pressure of looking at others as our standard of home schooling. It is so easy to do. In fact, comparing ourselves to others is a chronic problem. It happens with home schooling, our families, our looks, our homes, our cars, even our spirituality!
Psalm 42:5 shares with us,
“Why are you in despair, O my soul? And why have you become disturbed within me?
Hope in God, for I shall again praise Him for the help of His presence.”
and Psalm 118:8
“It is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man.”
When I was home schooling my children I would compare myself constantly to my friends and what curriculum they were using and how well their children behaved and even the fun things they were doing (like art projects) that we were not! Each year my husband would select the same curriculum but I really wanted what was the newest and the ones my friends were doing. I was in despair! My soul was in despair and disturbed. My focus was not on God but on man. My focus was not on prayer and what God was directing our family to do but on what my friend’s were doing and what I wasn’t! These verses say it all. My trust was in man.
Let’s seek the Lord for the direction of our homes, our relationships with our spouses and our children and our home schooling. Let’s not compare ourselves and our families with others because the journey we are on is different than others. I just love Psalm 139. Here is Psalm 139:1-10, 13-16:
“O Lord, You have searched me and known me. You know when I sit down and when I rise up;
You understand my thought from afar. You scrutinize my path and my lying down,
And are intimately acquainted with all my ways. Even before there is a word on my tongue,
Behold, O Lord, You know it all. You have enclosed me behind and before, And laid Your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; It is too high, I cannot attain to it.
Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from Your presence?
If I ascend to heaven, You are there; If I make my bed in Sheol, behold, You are there.
If I take the wings of the dawn, If I dwell in the remotest part of the sea,
Even there Your hand will lead me, And Your right hand will lay hold of me…
For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb.
I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.
My frame was not hidden from You, When I was made in secret,
And skillfully wrought in the depths of the earth; Your eyes have seen my unformed substance;
And in Your book were all written The days that were ordained for me, When as yet there was not one of them.”
I love these verses because they remind me that God created me and my family. He knows our strengths and weaknesses; He knows the journey He will take us on if we let Him; He knows the best road to take including the best curriculum, the best experiences, the best direction and our job is to really pray and seek the Lord for that. It may not look like anyone else’s path but it is the one God has for us and our families.
Take refuge in the Lord; Hope in God; Praise Him for the help of His presence; Know that He is intimately acquainted with all our ways; His hand will lead us; We are fearfully and wonderfully made; All the days ordained for us are written in His book!
Compare NOT and TRUST Him!